Rhodes Jul 19, Dating 0 comments. In our culture, people with narcissistic traits are so common, that nearly everyone has had some kind of contact with this type of person.
Nothing is more devastating than when a kind and compassionate person spends too much time with someone who is pathologically narcissistic.
They are the ones that over inflate their value and are immediately trying to impress those around him or her. Their behavior simply does not feel genuine. Most people make the decision to avoid further interaction with such people.
Women tend to be skilled at picking this up fairly quickly but often ignore their gut reactions while dating become infatuated with how charming, intelligent or extraverted a narcissistic man is.
Many of these types of men also do not feel the need to hide that they are narcissistic. They are proud of it and will tell you from the start. The very traits that we do not like in person are actually found attractive in social media or in online dating. Women continuously look for very intelligent men who are extraverted and ignore the rest of the options available. When I work with clients to better understand what they see when they are online dating, I often hear this sentence, especially from women.
I encourage all of my clients to ask themselves, honestly, if they are looking for short-term mating or a long-term relationship.
Most women will respond with the latter. Narcissists are charming, intelligent, creative and alluring. They know how to create chemistry and know how to get their own needs met. Narcissists are rewarded in our culture with short-term dating opportunities and are often found more often in our dating pool especially as we age.